Women’s Place In Life: Kitchen Or At The Top?

So according to our president, his wife place is in the kitchen and other rooms. Feminists are going crazy because of that sentence, as they should be. That sentence is disregarding and disrespectful. However it caused me to think it over deeply and reflect on the issue. Actually, the sentence of the president is coming from the perspective of a country that is deeply rooted in culture and religion. I am not coming in from the religious or cultural perspective rather I am going to try to reason it out based on the actual realities of our society.

A woman’s place isn’t just the kitchen. Her place is beside her man. It is not written anywhere that a woman life ends in the kitchen. Honestly such mentality shouldn’t even be around anymore. This is 2016; Hilary Clinton is going to be the FLOTUS. Angela Merkel has been the chancellor of Germany since 2005. Women are getting up there to stay up there. Women are achieving things and for someone, anyone to have that mindset that his woman belongs to the kitchen and bedroom is quite hilarious.

I think it is a woman’s duty to care for her household. That is, bother about her family general wellbeing. She is to cook for them, clean and manage the home. All these don’t however mean he is limited or restricted to the kitchen. I know so many feminists disagree with this, but oh well. I believe it’s a woman’s duty to take care of her family. It is a man’s job to provide for his family. There is nowhere this rule is explicitly stated but theses is the course of things in the society, I am not here to argue or displace that. My focus however is to say that although she is meant to care and manage her home. The kitchen isn’t her office or that grand place where she fulfills her destiny. Women are powerful, we can achieve things, we are smart and I think it is absolutely insulting for someone to say we are meant to end in the kitchen. It is so scary to think that a woman, with her quest to achieve enlightenment by getting an education and getting herself empowered is going to be regarded as furniture by her husband. That is wrong.

So that brings me to the question. Where is a woman’s place in the society, in her home, in this world that is largely controlled by the male folk? Well a woman place is beside her husband. Going stride by stride, achieving goals and being the best she can be. A true man will take his woman higher as he climbs higher. A woman role in the society is to give a sense of softness. She is to add the soft touch to the society, be a mentor to young girls. Her role is to be a constant source of inspiration to the young people. A woman should be able to enter the kitchen and cook a meal, as should a man also but that doesn’t mean it is a woman’s place. Cooking skills are lifesaving skills. Everyone should have them. I think it is high time the mentality that women don’t and shouldn’t amount to much is eradicated. I am a woman and I am more. I am so much more than my cooking skills.

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Buhari Replies Wife Over BBC Interview, Says She Belongs To My Kitchen

President Muhammadu Buhari has reacted to the interview his wife granted to the BBC where she made scathing remarks concerning the president’s decision in government.

Aisha Buhari had in an interview with BBC’s Naziru Mikailu, said she may not back her husband at the next election unless he shakes up his government.

She further declared that Buhari “does not know”most of the top officials he has appointed, and that the government had been hijacked by some persons deciding presidential appointments.

“The president does not know 45 out of 50, for example, of the people he appointed and I don’t know them either, despite being his wife of 27 years,” she said people adding that those who do not share the vision of the ruling All Progressives Congress (APC) were now appointed to top posts.

“Some people are sitting down in their homes folding their arms only for them to be called to come and head an agency or a ministerial position.”

But reacting to the First Lady’s comment, Buhari who is on a three-day visit to Germany laughed off his wife’s comments about him, saying, “I don’t know which party my wife belongs to, but she belongs to my kitchen and my living room.”

His comments to reporters in Germany prompted German Chancellor Angela Merkel, standing at his side, to give him a short glare and then laugh.

In his comments to reporters, Buhari also said he hopes his wife will remember that he ran for president three times before succeeding on the fourth effort. “So I claim superior knowledge over her and the rest of the opposition, because in the end I have succeeded. It’s not easy to satisfy the whole Nigerian opposition parties or to participate in the government.”

Buhari, who was briefly a military dictator in the 1980s, was elected in his fourth run at the presidency in 2015 on the back of a coalition that includes former foes and opportunists who abandoned the former governing party of defeated President Goodluck Jonathan.

Buhari has not said whether he will run again in 2019.

“He is yet to tell me, but I have decided as his wife that if things continue like this up to 2019, I will not go out and campaign again and ask any woman to vote like I did before. I will never do it again,” Aisha Buhari said.

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Odious Rave From The South On Kitchen Cabinet, A Misplaced Priority By AbdulRahman Agboola

The fundamental ideals of freedom of speech often generate diversity of thoughts and reasoning with positive and negative implications on topical issues in the society. Affinity in our clime has proved to be threatening to peoples’ sense of judgment on policy matters especially when the thrust of those policies checkmates greed and selfishness among a particular power block.

It is not demeaning to state that the alarming level of dependency of people on political office holders accounts for irrational behaviours and social malaise that culminated to the misfortunes inherited by the present administration. We seem too eager of our benefactors’ ascendancy to the ranks that will increase our benefits, an odd mentality of dark ages dubiously polished as loyalty, resulting to the proliferation of corruption and economic maladies.

It is really disheartening to note the odious rave from the South on the appointment of Kitchen cabinet by Mr President. The raves cast aspersions on the good discretion of the President in accommodating Southerners as close allies, a mischief targeted at tainting his discretion as either doubtful or wrong and as such should not be trusted with our collective mandate or how can one better explain the allegation of biasness against the President.

The issues at stake transcend ordinary party affiliations as the alibi for the ill-conceived criticism is the Federal Character which is applicable only circumstantially, when other germane parameters primarily dictates the basis of comparison of personalities for appointments, this alibi becomes secondary with all intents and purposes.

The thoughts that all Nigerians are determined for a new lease of life where economic prosperity will elude none relayed a relief to adherents of change, but the new wave of disapproval of the direction being set for Nigerians by this new administration by self-serving critics in the South indicates an urgent need for a rethink as the challenges ahead seems enormous and must not be treated with levity, if we must progress as a Country.

Criminals are mindless of the fates of the victims of their crimes; same applies to fraudulent politicians who are mindless of the future of the Country. The South to a very large extent served as the conscience of this Country before the last administration, as the North was predominantly populated with conformist who aligns with any government in power but the tide seems to be changing from the last administration and except for Asiwaju Bola Ahmed Tinubu and his team in the South West, Rotimi Amaechi/Oshiomole and team in the South South and Ogbonaya Onu/Rochas Okorocha and team in the South East, this Country would have been in dilemma now, but they salvaged the unity of the Country with their holy alliance with the ultimate wishes of the populace when it mattered most in the interest of this Country and on that noble path they should remain steadfastly with hope of a brighter rewarding future for the populace.

The trust entrusted by these Political Leaders of Southern extraction on Muhammadu Buhari at the last general election was ultimately based on their zeal and crave for good governance and return of sanity into the system for the glorious benefits of all citizens, I begin to wonder if those raving on the appointments of people from North as Chief Of Staff to Mr President and Secretary to the Government of Federation never thought their actions smears the good image of the South on their rave against Mr President on errand boys positions.

At the election of the Speaker of the Federal House of Representatives on 6th June, 2015, Hon Femi Gbajabiamila from the South West lost to Hon Yakubu Dogara with a difference of 8 Votes in an election where all PDP Members of the House of Representatives from the South aligned with the North by voting for Dogara where Gbajabiamila and voted against the Candidate from the South under the guise of either vendetta or slicing the influence of Asiwaju Bola Ahmed Tinubu who was a leading promoter of Gbajabiamila for Speaker which makes the South architects of their misfortunes.

The title of the Chief of Staff is not more than the head of servants to Mr President or better still, the handler of Mr President a position that possess little or no influence in general administration of government policies while the occupant of position of the Secretary to the Government of the Federation serve as a Secretary to the Federal Cabinet and only takes briefs from Mr President or on his behalf equally with little or no influence in decision making. Apart from the exclusive functions of the President, only Ministers and heads of agencies have influence in the cabinet and that is where Federal Character is sacrosanct.

Except we tend to posit that crooked activities will be prevalent within the corridors of power like the last administration where Office of Chief of Staff or Secretary to the Government of Federation served as platforms for criminal manipulations and fraudulent activities then the rage against Mr President is not only preposterous but a misplaced priority ad infinitum.

We should strive for true federalism with an entrenched Local Government Administration where peculiarities of each community will determine their priority outside the essential services provided by Government to the people while the excesses of State Governors must be challenged especially in terms of policy formulations and implementations to conform to best practices and effective service delivery.

Ode to the West Wind was a poem by Shelley in 1820, the poet describes the violence of the ‘Wild West Wind’ and of nature itself, causing so much destruction in the autumn, but at the same time he finds it good because it prepares the way for new life in the spring “Be through my lips to unawaken’d earth, the trumpet of a prophecy! O Wind, if winter comes, can spring be far behind?” Wind could be very destructive but it is imperative for a downpour, in the same vein, the wind must blow off parochial interest along ethnic and religious partitions in Nigeria for the downpour of good governance and rule of law to prevail in Nigeria.

The decision of Mr President to make integrity his watchword should reawaken our consciousness to the fact that smear and campaign of calumny aimed at getting rid of perceived political rival majorly prevalent among Politicians in the South have its adverse effect on the image of the personalities with integrity within the fold.

When Governor Wike of Rivers State commenced his vicious attack against his predecessor over temporary rivalry among the duo that were best of friends years ago, little did he know that he was damaging the interest his benefactor or how do you expect Mr President to flagrantly disregard those accusations with the wave of the hand considering the timing. Former Governor Rotimi Amaechi surely has his usefulness in other key positions in government; his charismatic and oratory prowess is too outstanding to be ignored and will certainly make a big wave in the administration of President Muhammadu Buhari, it is Governor Wike that must watch his steps as the table will turn against him if the Governorship Election Petition Tribunal order a fresh election in Rivers State.

In my assessment of our Class Captain as fondly called by APC Governors in South West, Former Governor of Lagos State Babatunde Raji Fashola, the position of Chief of Staff to Mr President is highly derogatory to his personality except we undervalue his plenteous capabilities. Those attacks against him from his allies on the imperfection of his administration though ill-conceived should be viewed as a call for caution in his future endeavours in governance and should be taking by him in good faith and realign with the structures that facilitated his ascendancy to the exalted seat of Lagos State Governor in Lagos State, I urge him to live above the division caused by the rivalry between the two major political interest ( Justice Forum vs Mandate) within the rank of APC in Lagos State.

The ultimate demand of good governance and rule of law is merit but it cannot subsist in isolation, merit implies equitable consideration of the best person in line for a particular assignment. We elected Mr President in a mood of cautious optimism for excellence in the discharge of the duties of his office and his credibility that earned the confidence of the populace must remain untamed and should never allow the manoeuvres of the political elites within the corridors of power derail his utmost consideration for the populace, as an adherent of Change, I would not doubt the worthy intentions of our estimable President and urge the populace to sincerely form a human shield around his intentions for our collective good.


Comrade AbdulRahman Agboola

National Coordinator,

Mass Action for Good Governance and Grassroots Development in Nigeria

massaction4gg@gmail.com 08032813279

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