Internet Marriage: A Perfidy, By Deji Atoyebi
Many arguments have risen for and against the existence of the internet. Some see the internet as a blessing, while others see it as an unforgivable curse. Honestly, the antagonists of the internet cannot be blamed as there is evidently no smoke without fire. The arguments of the supposed ‘haters’ of the internet take into cognizance its numerous evils. Presently, the most trendy amongst the vices is the “internet marriage” which has pervaded the social networking media.
The internet marriage is a situation whereby a man and a woman become couples over the internet and carry out demeaning acts such as sex chats, through texts and other means. More often than not, one of the couples is located in a distant place which is too far from the reach of the other. However, what many people have failed to realize is the fraudulent motive of one of the parties towards such relationship. In most cases, the other couple would appear too blind ‘in love’ to notice. Full observation has proven that all reported cases of internet marriage have two things in common –the foolishness of one party and its potential of resulting to NOTHING at the end.
A man (whose name will remain unmentioned for confidential reasons) narrated his experience of the internet marriage to me very recently. Mr. A is a 47 year old man with a wife and two kids. He met this lady on Facebook who presented herself to be a resident of Bronx in New York, USA. He was soon enough entangled in the web of love – or perhaps lust- as the woman appeared stinkingly rich. Unfortunate enough, this occured during a period when he was undergoing financial crises and needed money to supplement his meagre income. Hence, he lusted after his seemingly rich facebook love.
Days and month passed and so did their “love” continue growing like wild flower. They had become so intimate that they chatted erotically online and yet, he was a family man! His wife and children were obviously ambivalent of this progress in continuum. At a point, the woman said she would make provisions for him, so he could come to New York. However, this like many other promises, was just a tactic at disrupting the man’s reasoning faculty.
She further promised to send money to him frequently. This particular promise made the man throw all caution to the wind as he spent money voraciously with the hope of getting “Manna” from New York. Time went on and the woman failed to keep her promise. Eventually, the woman started soliciting for help. She claimed she had financial difficulties and would need money from him. Normally, to any sane man, this is supposed to be a red light which would bring the man back to his senses, instead he began sending money to the dishonest woman.
To cut the long story short, he had sent up to hundred thousand Naira to the woman who later blocked him after he had no more money to expend on such pocket-draining project. He later became aware of the fact that the woman was fraudulent, but this was too late; his bank account was already empty. However, no one really knows whether the woman really exists, or it was all the handiwork of a fellow man who owned a female account to accomplish his draconian intentions.
Please my fellow men and women, shine your eyes. Not all that glitters is gold. There are a lot of people out there who have no other means of living but the illicit activities they embark upon on the social media. Do not fall prey to any man or woman’s actions or words. Your family needs you.