Our Elders Of Today By Azeez Abdullahi Opeyemi
After several years of pondering over the statement – The beautiful ones are yet to be born; am beginning to believe the statement or should I say – the beautiful ones have gone. Recent occurrences in our dear society subjected or justified without doubt on how our silence can lead to absolute dismay. In short, moral decadence is on its brink of causing total catastrophe.
As an African, history serves as a pedal for promoting ideologies, beliefs and morals which do not infringe human rights. Our forefathers were innovative in their relations; they kept devising means to connect the young to the old through tales, advices and other means.
Today, the socialisation of the society has thrown youths into their Bermuda triangle of hopelessness, mental degrading, thus leading to illness of the society or how do you describe the mental state of a female who has dated more than 4 guys at age 20? Has she experienced good things or bad ones?
In the past, the then fathers knew human growth is in phases, and each comes with different experience. Absolute attention was given to the foundation which without displacement is the bedrock of all endeavours, which in the case of a homo-sapien is the childhood phase and a portion of its adolescence. ‘You can’t build something on nothing’ gave relevance to the position of foundation in every realm of development. Therefore, what relevance do present day parents play at this phase of their children?
Without mincing of words, parents of today have fun in exploring the cornucopia resources of the world believing materials things can create connection. I ask, in our various abode, when last have we discussed with the elderly ones? When last have they shared with the young ones, methods of surviving in life? What part of their behaviours can the youths emulate?
The situation is even worst to the extent of youths finding it hard to greet, using their strength to promote Godly works, not putting their thinking caps into work or connecting their inner selves with the society. Therefore, ‘the leaders of the tomorrow’ ideology is becoming a fable.
When last have they tried to question the behaviours of youths; all they say is – ‘aye ti yi, igba ti yi pada, omo taye babi laye jo’ – the world has changed, your generation is smart, leave them to flow with the present idea. Does smartness supersede experience? Our elders need to share ideas.
‘O ye who believe, ward off yourselves and family a fire whereof the fuel is man and stone, over which are set angels strong, severe, who resist not Allah in that which he commands them, but do that which they are commanded’’ – Quran 66:6. In line with the Quran verse, how would a materialistic parent protect his present and thereafter of his wards?. Our elders keep emphasizing on their own spirituality throwing the youths in the middle of nowhere or maybe I wasn’t observant on the fact that youths dominate the ‘‘class three’’ in all gatherings (churches or mosque) i.e. they love sitting at the back. Were the elders brought up like that?
Apart from negligence on spirituality, most cases of rape are caused by older ones, it very disheartening when issues are narrated on Father-daughter issue, elderly neighbours forcing innocent ones into trauma. Females are defined to be the keepers of the world. These set of Homo sapiens have being blessed with different abilities which a major one is muti-tasking and resulting to efficient and effective solutions.
Records have it that more than 20 cases arise in Ibadan monthly; more than 100 cases were reported in Kano between November and December 2013, to mention a few. Based on these facts, it is deducible that it is on the rampant among Nigerians.
The most saddening part is that the elderly ones are always the culprit. The victims of these incidents are thrown into confusion at a very tender age which leads to trauma for the abused. The second richest black woman – Oprah Winfrey isn’t an exception to the aforesaid assertion.
Traditionally, this act of rape is believed to be metaphysical; which is a strong belief that can’t be eluded among Africans. But why can’t the spirits push these men to sex-harlot whom would treat them with upmost dismay if payment isn’t made for services rendered?
Our fathers of today have created a communication gap, stopped teaching morals and forgot that self experience is the slowest way of learning. Let us ask them, is that how they were brought up?
(Azeez Abdullahi Opeyemi is an alumnus of Unilorin, a Writer, and a blogger).
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