Child Marriage: Because A Fool Has an Opinion….18 Becomes A Magic Number By Al-Faruq
Let me begin by answering a very silly question. The same lame question people ask and when you answer them they ask again and again like some badly programmed robot. “can you give your daughter out in marriage at 14?” The simple answer is yes. But watch out, after reading this piece they will ask again. They ask and keep asking because the campaign against a woman less than 18 getting married has just two pillars: angry exclamations and pointless questions. We will not be like them, we will mention and refute each and every one of their objection to a man of any age marrying a woman of any age provided there is parental consent
Some have likened marrying a 14 years old girl to “ruining her life” and this is related to sex often. This is the view point of people who are sexually reckless hence their mind have become perverted so much so that they can only think of a man and a young lady living as man and wife from the angle of sex. When he was informed that marriage does not mean immediate sex one of such commentators said “how can you give a bone to a dog and expect him not to eat it?”. So you see this pervert likens his being around a 14 years old girl to a dog being around a bone and surprisingly he thinks someone else is the pervert
Pedophilia is not to have sex with your wife who is under 18 within marriage, pedophilia is to have sexual desire for prepubescent children. If i marry a paralyzed woman does it follow that i have sexual desire for paralyzed women? If i marry an old lady does it follow that i have sexual desire for old women? Why is it said that whoever marries someone you defined a child has sexual desire for children? This thinking can only come from people who not only think marriage is equal to sex but also see women as of no other value than sex and one can hardly blame them afteral the movies they watch, songs they sing, women they see and even clothes they wear resolve around sex and they think everyone is like them
Some like Femi Fani Kayode have even describe the whole nation as a nation of perverts and we say to this elder with the temperament of a juvenile; by your own definition of perversion and pedophilia, you are calling your great grand fathers perverts and by implication you are calling yourself a product of pedophilia. You are not stopping there you are also calling Joseph who was betrothed to Mary the mother of Jesus far before 12 years a pedophile and you are pointing accusing fingers at your God for putting one of His honorable messengers, Jesus, in the tummy of a 12 years old according to your records and we say to you; an elder should only speak of what he has thought of, please leave this reactionary outburst to children; the poorly brought up ones to be specific
The problem i have with overnight moralist is their hypocrisy. If the news was that the Senate removed a clause that says fornication is a crime these Child Not Bride people will not breathe a word. If the news was that Senate removed a clause that girls of 14 years can no longer be used as house helps these Child not Bride hypocrites will not breathe a word. They tell us that a girl of 14 cannot handle a home yet alot of them have one at home washing their clothes, cleaning the toilet and sweeping their floors without respect and honour that a man should give his wife. They tell us a girl of 14 does not know anything yet Juliet of the Romeo and Juliet fame which they propagate as epitome of love was not even up to 14 neither was the Rose character who is depicted to have sex with Jack. So to these crazed morons it is ok for a child to be depicted with romance and sex but she should not marry; they choose child pornography over marriage and one of their messages asked yet another chilly question: “how can a child who is not allowed to watch pornography be allowed to get married?”. What a question, what a people!
Where were these fraudsters when movies were being aired teaching their children how to kiss and have sex? Where were these criminals when Mrs. Ngozi Iwuoha cried her eyes out narrating how Apostle Princewill Basil lied to her 15 years old daughter that there was a “dirty foundation that defined her life” and that he has the anointing power to cast the evil spirit away from her so he violated the little girl and when she was pregnant he took her somewhere and aborted the baby. What about the chairman of bishops in Rivers State, Bishop Chibuike Nwabueze who admitted to have had sex with a 14 years old girl and paid for her abortion? Why was there no Child Not Sex Toy campaign and no VVF talk? The Bishop even claimed the little girl seduced him and i am sure this same Bishop if he was not nabbed would have been among the loud mouths speaking against a decision not to prohibit marriage for a 17 years old whose parent and religion consent
In the last few weeks there was no fewer than 5 little children defiled in Benin City from police report alone and you can be sure the police will not report 95% of the cases. Vanguard Newspaper has tagged it a Season of Rape. Pastor Eze Fidelis of the Deeper Life Bible Church was discovered to be having sex with two girls one 9 and the other 11 and the two of the use to come together to his house for that purpose for over a year now meaning he started when one was 8 and the other 10, Segun Oteru did what he did with Grace a 12 years old, and Saturday Cole did same with another little girl of 11 all in one week and nobody breathe a word, and it was not done by force, and what we hear is “i was tempted” from the same mouth that would have been cursing Yerima for marrying a girl who is now 17 years old schooling happily in Egypt while he is in Nigeria. Some say Yerima paid 500,000 dollars for dowry and at the same time they said his wife will have VVF, this is like fasting and eating at the same time but the country has enough fools who will buy any and every talk
Putting all these occurrences into perspective, we are not saying if you did not speak up against prostitution then you must be mute on fornication, that is wrong because both are evil. What we are saying is if you will not criticize an evil do not criticize a good just because you suspect it may lead to evil in some cases. Will there be men who will maltreat their wife when she is 90? YES, will there be men who will maltreat their wife when they are 14? YES, will there be men who will maltreat their wife when they are 25? YES…there is nothing in the age 17 that induces maltreatment. Fathers need to be careful who they allow their daughters of any age to marry, they may even be more careful when the daughter is younger, no problem, but don’t tell us the whole idea is wrong and should be prohibited for everybody because, i don’t know of your Christian community, but our Muslim community have men who will not maltreat their wives of any age even though we have a few who would. I don’t know of your Christian community but our Muslim community have men who marry for other reasons apart from sex and we urge you to respect that afteral we are not coming for your daughter, even if we do you can reject, and our daughters who we marry out at 14 are not complaining now that they are 35, matter of fact they are happy they will have children of 20 who may even be Professors by the time they are 45 still young and beautiful thirty years into marriage
You have always ask if we can give out our daughters at that age and we have always answered that we can because we know the stuff a true Muslim is made of; even if his wife was blind, deaf and dumb he won’t maltreat her because his beloved Prophet Muhammad (SAW) has already said the best among you is the one who is best to his wife. If you judge us looking at El Rufai and Atiku Abubakar who you have corrupted with your system you may not see clearly. I suggest you bother yourself with your problem so that we see a Boy Not Bride campaign that will safe the little boys being sodomized everyday in the name of a strange thou shall not marry religious belief afterall they say charity begins at home
Finally, let me say that you can make any law you want to make none will be before our Qur’an and the Sunnah of our Prophet because we consider it foolishness to place what man legislates on top what God Almighty reveals, so if you intend to seize the House of Assembly and write a new constitution that says marriage should be put at 45 please knock yourself out, the law will be for you and you alone; we marry at any age and to partners of any age and nothing will stop it, you can waste time and money it won’t change because this is how we have kept our decency which, even though you hate to admit, you are witnesses to. We do hope you come out of your hypocrisy some day and accept life as real as it is , maybe then you’ll realise when God and God’s people speak the opinion of fools don’t matter.
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